“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,
bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them.
Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back.
Do to others as you would have them do to you.”
Luke 6:27-31 (NIV)
Pray for yourself and your spouse. Pray especially when you think that you have been wronged. Here’s where love is really put to the test. When we think that someone owes us an apology, we tend to withhold love until they have paid their debts and satisfied our demands. But that’s not how Christ taught us to love. We must love in spite of our feelings. How do we do this? Take steps to do what is right and to say what is right. You do need to explain to your spouse how you feel about what has happened in a spirit of love conditioned by acts of love. Perhaps your spouse needs to face the truth and to be corrected. But this cannot happen when you are angry and accusative. That will just make your spouse defensive. But when you act in genuine love, trusting the promises of God, your spouse will be able to see the wrong and address it properly.