No matter what last year was like this is a new year for your marriage. It’s a new opportunity for growth. If you put faith in God if you sow the seed of faith, God can grow you and your marriage together. Believe, really believe. If you doubt, tell God. Tell God about the hurts that you still have that have not yet healed. Look for an opportunity to put the past behind you by forgiving and then discussing these things with your spouse. But you must begin every difficult discussion with an attitude of forgiveness and the spirit of prayer and faith in God. Expect the best. This is not positive thinking this is faith based thinking knowing that whatever seeds of faith you sow God will grow.