What one word would you use to complete this blessing to your spouse or loved one?

January 5, 2017

What one word would you use to complete this blessing to your spouse or loved one?  

Sow to Grow

January 2, 2017

“For Love is patient. . .” Growing a marriage is like growing a garden: you have to sow to grow, and you must constantly eliminate weeds in order to succeed.  Each day (or week) make a conscious effort to sow one seed of love into your relationship, and make the same effort to eliminate one…

Love never fails

December 30, 2016

I Corinthians 13 “Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not conceited, does not act improperly, is not selfish, is not provoked, and does not keep a record of wrongs. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” We like comparing ourselves to others: it empowers…

What have you done for me lately?

December 9, 2015

“What have you done for me lately?” That was the name of a popular song in the 80’s. Unfortunately it’s the same song we sing in our marriages. We tend to judge each other and our relationship by the latest or last word, feeling, or experience. If it’s bad, then it’s all bad and we…

How To Listen

November 30, 2015

Learning to listen James 1:19 (NIV) My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. We talk too much. Let’s learn not only to hear what our spouses are saying, but let’s learn to wait and meditate on the weight of…

Sow Love

November 4, 2015

Marriage is a promise. But it’s not just a promise between you and your spouse, it’s primarily God’s promise to you. His promise is that if we love one another as he has loved us then we will reap the fruit of the Holy Spirit in our homes and our hearts, and that our marriages…

Don't Assume

November 3, 2015

Here are three words that can change your marriage today. “Ask and Listen.” We need to learn to ask and to listen to each other because one of the most destructive elements in our marriages is the negative power of assumptions. We assume that everything is right between us and our spouse. Or we assume…

How to help your spouse and yourself to grow in Christ

October 15, 2015

Marriage allows us the privilege of ministering Christ to each other.  We become Christ’s ear–to listen compassionately, Christ’s mouth–to speak lovingly, and Christ’s hands to do good deeds for each other.  But only faith in Christ– and obedience to His Word– can help us to love this way consistently.  Left to ourselves, we only focus…

Think before you talk

October 9, 2015

Here’s a little advice that has helped me and Helen to confront difficult issues in our marriage. Perhaps it may help you also. Before you begin conversations about sensitive issues, establish and maintain a positive purpose. After you have defused the tension and avoided a destructive confrontation, prepare to speak constructively about the conflict. Remember…

Why God loves your marriage

October 4, 2015

If we are going to preserve marriage, deliver it to our posterity, and preserve it for their children, then we must get back to its biblical foundations. We need to ask two questions: The first question is who instituted or created marriage? And the second question is why did he do so? The first answer…