Getting Past the Past

March 5, 2019

Past problems can be a never-ending source of conflict. Sometimes couples are so desperate to forget the past that they pretend as if nothing has ever happened. They try to will themselves into a state of forgetfulness. But this doesn’t work; it just leads to more resentment. Trying to forget is almost impossible. The real…

Step 3: Maintain As You Gain

March 3, 2019

Nurture and cultivate the seeds or new attitudes and actions that you are sowing into your marriage. Seeds won’t grow unless you deliberately and systematically commit to watering and tending the soil. We must commit to cultivating and nurturing the new virtues that we want to see growing in our hearts and in our relationships.…

Step 2: Sow what you want to grow.

March 3, 2019

To sow means to put something in the ground. Sowing is the metaphor that we use to describe the activity of investing in our relationship. Scripture tells us that “A man reaps what he sows.” If you want to experience more love, joy, kindness, and peace in your marriage, be the one to put more…

Step 1 in Maintaining the Marriage Garden

March 3, 2019

(1) Prepare and clear the ground. Think of the soil as your hearts. Just like the ground we chose was filled with obstacles to planting, so too the ground of our hearts is filled with obstacles to new growth. What are those obstacles? Some of them are the hard, rocky resentments that you have developed…

Marriage and Gardening

February 28, 2019

Now what does marriage have to do with gardening? Everything! God uses the garden as a metaphor for relationships from Genesis to Revelation. He placed Adam and Eve into the Garden of Eden and commissioned them to cultivate it. Jesus tells us that He is the Vine, we are the branches, and that His Father…

Step three: Maintain As You Gain

February 22, 2019

We watered and nurtured those seeds until they blossomed into brightly colored splashes of red, yellow, orange, and white flowers and sturdy green shrubs. But the job had just begun: now we had to keep the garden looking that way. We had to maintain the garden by relentlessly removing weeds as quickly as they reared…

Step two: Sow to Grow

February 22, 2019

Time for sowing seeds. We soaked the land with water, dug holes, and place planted seeds.

Step One: Clear and Prepare

February 22, 2019

First, we (actually, I ) had to clear and prepare the ground that we had selected. This was my specialty. If that area of soil had been left untended for years, it was usually overgrown with weeds or filled with rocks. But it didn’t take much skill or knowledge to break up the soil and…

The Process for Success

February 22, 2019

I am not a gardener. And I know very little about planting. Thankfully, my wife has a green thumb. She knows how to turn barren plots of earth into beautiful gardens. This takes time. Beautiful gardens don’t spring up overnight. It’s a step by step process, and each step is crucial to the final outcome.…

Some Verses to Live By

February 20, 2019

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue. . .” Proverbs 18:21 (KJV) “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not…