What is Marriage?

March 25, 2019

Marriage is a thousand little things…It’s giving up your right to be right in the heat of an argument. It’s forgiving another when they let you down. It’s loving someone enough to step down so that they can shine. It’s friendship. It’s being a cheerleader and trusted confidant. It’s a place of forgiveness that welcomes…

If It Were Easy, Anyone Could Do It.

March 21, 2019

This is why most couples fail at the very beginning. No one tells them that after the honeymoon, hard work is going to be required to keep the lines of communication open, to keep from falling into the contempt of familiarity, to keep befriending each other, and to keep knowing and being known. Marriage requires…

Three Things Learned From Sowing and Reaping

March 20, 2019

When My wife and I were experiencing tempestuous conflicts earlier in our marriage, we learned three things from this eternal principle of sowing and reaping. First, each of us had to take responsibility for our relationship. We couldn’t blame one another for the way things were. Both of us could look back and see that…

Sowing Is Growing

March 19, 2019

“A man reaps what he sows” (Gal. 6:7) The Law of Sowing and Reaping means this: you can only get back what you put in. If you want apples, you must sow or plant apple seeds. The same applies to relationships: you must sow or put into the relationship whatever you want back from the…

TWO become ONE but must remain TWO for your marriage to be true!

March 19, 2019

One of the greatest causes of bitterness, anger, and brokenness in marriage is the confusion over union: couples know that in marriage TWO become ONE, but what they forget (or are never taught) is that ONE must continue to be TWO. Union is sacred—but so is individuality. People must learn to be One and yet…

Forgive and Forget

March 14, 2019

When you are tempted to dwell on the pain, remember how God forgave you unconditionally and do the same to your partner. We have to learn to move on from our mistakes, to forgive ourselves and others, and to stop living backwards. Guilt, shame, and self-condemnation are burdensome weights that keep us from making progress…

Listen and Learn

March 13, 2019

As you share and listen, focus on putting your faith in forgiveness and the laws of love. It takes faith to keep releasing your spouse from the debts that you have kept consciously or unconsciously against him or her, but do so remembering that “Love keeps no record of wrongs.” (I Cor. 13:5 NIV)

Wise Words

March 12, 2019

Here are some suggestions for beginning a positive conversation about the past: “I need to tell you what I have been feeling.” “I need for you to understand my pain, but I love you, and I am not doing this to hurt you.” “I know we can’t change the past, but I believe that we…

Using the Past to Power the Present

March 8, 2019

When you decide to learn from your past, proceed with faith in God’s redemptive power and refuse to accuse. Commit to going over the issues that must be discussed to get to a new day, but begin in the atmosphere of forgiveness. The past cannot be discussed effectively without a spirit of forgiveness.

The Past, The Present, and The Future

March 6, 2019

Now let me be clear: This does not mean that you have to go over every painful mistake in the past. It would be unwise and destructive to spend your present by living in the past. Your goal is to do and say what needs to be done and said in order to remove the…