Instead of focusing on your spouse and his/her faults, focus on transforming yourself more and more into the personality of Christ through the power that Christ has already given to you. Remember the truth: you are the only person that you can change immediately and directly. And when you begin to change yourself, those changes will influence your spouse and cause him or her to want to make positive changes also. So if you want to change what you have been experiencing in your marriage—if you want to go from slow death to joyful life—begin the process today of renewing your mind with the Seed of Faith. Renew your mind to renew your marriage. Keep seeing your spouse as he or she can become in Christ. Keep saying and praying God’s promises.