If we are going to preserve marriage, deliver it to our posterity, and preserve it for their children, then we must get back to its biblical foundations. We need to ask two questions: The first question is who instituted or created marriage? And the second question is why did he do so? The first answer is found in Genesis. God the creator created marriage. He instituted marriage. Marriage is a creation ordinance.
The next question is: Why did he do so?
After all of the theological books have been written, the answer is really simple. God created marriage so that each of us could have the glorious opportunity to love one another as deeply, as profoundly, as lovingly, as graciously, and as faithfully as he loves us. God created marriage to grant us the blessing of loving another as he has loved us, and of being to someone else what he is to us. Marriage is for love. It gives us the greatest opportunity to fulfill the second greatest commandment– that we should love our neighbor as ourselves. We need to stop looking at marriage the way the world looks at marriage. The culture sees marriage as a vehicle for happiness and self fulfillment. When marriage fails to fulfill our needs we move onto the next potential fulfilling partner. Marriage deteriorates into something that is designed to make us happy and to fulfill our lives. But God instituted marriage so that we could love each other– so that we could love someone else, some other person as unconditionally as he loved us and continues to love us. Marriage was created that each of us could be like Christ to another, so that Christ himself could live, love, and serve someone else through our lives.
The first defense of marriage therefore, and the best way to preserve and to enjoy our marriages and is to see it through the eyes of the one who created it. The best way for us to keep faithful every day is to recognize that marriage is a gift so that we might give the gift of God’s love to another and yes receive that gift. It is mutually beneficial too. But long after one partner stops loving, we still have the power and the ability and–yes even the command–to keep loving as he has loved us.