There is reason most couples fail at the very beginning. They don’t work hard enough. No one tells them that after the honeymoon, hard work is going to be required to keep the lines of communication open, to keep from falling into the contempt of familiarity, to keep befriending each other, and to keep knowing and being known. Marriage requires that both spouses work hard at mutual understanding. There must be a daily commitment to sowing and cultivating the right seeds (the right words and actions) into the relationship to meet each other’s most basic needs.